Child custody / support / visitation

[payroll_dept]

Being in the payroll department at work, I do alot of child support garnishments for drivers.

It's hard enough for me to get to see my daughter since I'm not with her mom, and I hear alot of stories from the drivers. What's everyones' take on being a Non-custodial parent from the road?

[TJGoSurf]

I dont like kids, I will not ever have any, so my opinion is bad to begin with.

[jnjsarauer]

It depends on the the situation in terms of how often you can get to see them. My ex-husband had two kids, and before he was a truck driver, his former wife moved them several hundred miles away, so visitation was rare and challenging. When we started truck driving, we were able to arrange a route going through their town every week, so suddenly, the kids were a regular part of his life again. It was a pretty neat thing, so depending how you can set things up, it can work out pretty well to be a noncustodial parent on the road.

[debrajean]

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Originally Posted by jnjsarauer It depends on the the situation in terms of how often you can get to see them. My ex-husband had two kids, and before he was a truck driver, his former wife moved them several hundred miles away, so visitation was rare and challenging. When we started truck driving, we were able to arrange a route going through their town every week, so suddenly, the kids were a regular part of his life again. It was a pretty neat thing, so depending how you can set things up, it can work out pretty well to be a noncustodial parent on the road.

It's wonderful that this worked out for you guys. Not everyone, including non-truckers have this kind of situation. The fact that you used your jobs to your advantage, concerning the kids, is a great indicator on how committed you were to your children. Kudos!

[hurgoll]

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Originally Posted by jnjsarauer It depends on the the situation in terms of how often you can get to see them. My ex-husband had two kids, and before he was a truck driver, his former wife moved them several hundred miles away, so visitation was rare and challenging. When we started truck driving, we were able to arrange a route going through their town every week, so suddenly, the kids were a regular part of his life again. It was a pretty neat thing, so depending how you can set things up, it can work out pretty well to be a noncustodial parent on the road.

That's really great, I have a had time with my ex right now and she only lives three doors down. (song title huh?) anyway I cannot imagine the problems. She changes her mind at the drop of a hat on if i can see them or not. If I drove 200 miles and then got there and she said no for some reason I would want to explode.

[debrajean]

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Originally Posted by hurgoll That's really great, I have a had time with my ex right now and she only lives three doors down. (song title huh?) anyway I cannot imagine the problems. She changes her mind at the drop of a hat on if i can see them or not. If I drove 200 miles and then got there and she said no for some reason I would want to explode.

And you would have every right to be upset, it's plain mean to do this to anybody. If a person travels hundreds of miles to see their child, then they should be able to see them.

[manning125]

It's hard to really give an opinion on this subject because its so different from one situation to the next. All I can say is that if a parent is trying to be a part of a child's life, everyone should give a little to make it happen.

[cassiem0221]

I dido Manning125. Each situation is going to be very unique. If you can even attempt to make it work then all effort should be set forth.